Do you sometimes feel that you are talking to yourself? No matter how many times you speak nicely and display patience, there are days you feel that your child is not listening. Frustrating, isn’t it?
Often, as parents, the request to start getting ready for bed starts off politely, gradually shifting to a yelling tone. After all, how many times does a child need to be asked to have a shower and brush their teeth? Getting your child to listen, without having to yell is a challenge. There’s no single magic trick, but we’ve compiled a range of ideas that may work for your household.
Balancing Screen Time with Physical Exercise
They say that the current generation of parents have the hardest job. Children are spending an increasing amount of time on screens, which means less time playing outside. So, what does this mean? Exercise is beneficial for children and for those over 5 years of age, a minimum of one hour per day of physical exercise is recommended. Aside from the health benefits associated with exercising, moving more allows children to clear their mind and to have a better night’s sleep.
Incorporating exercise into your own routine has similar outcomes as it does for children. There are plenty of online exercises, along with these ones for some fun ideas for the whole family. When everyone has had their daily dose of exercise, the temperature in your house will lower, which reduces the need for yelling.
Pick Your Battles for What Really Matters
In reality, we are living differently with COVID-19 and children may feel distressed. Andrew Fuller, clinical psychologist who specialises in childhood wellbeing, points out that children may be feeling
You’ve probably heard parents talk about how they will sometimes pick their battles. This works successfully for children of any age. You’ll notice that the battles you choose revolve around your family values. Values such as showing respect and using manners may take precedence over keeping a tidy room.
Children can respond differently, and you experience that your child doesn’t like to be told what to do. Likewise, it’s not fun for parents to have to remind their child repeatedly to do (or not to do) the same things each day. Knowing what is important will help you with picking your battles and also ensures that your child doesn’t feel that they are being nagged at.
Mindfulness Resources for a Happy Home
If your child experiences anxiousness or can feel stressed in certain situations, mindfulness apps can be beneficial. You can make mindfulness sessions part of your daily schedule, such as right before bedtime. There are also free audios available on this website that are tailored for children, along with some for parents.
Particularly in times of uncertainty, such as during COVID-19, it is important to incorporate mindfulness or forms of meditation into your household to release any extra stress.
The Effectiveness of Calm Speaking
Yelling is not an effective way to get through to children and can do more harm than good so when you feel like your child is not responding to you, take a deep breath and try to lower your voice. The calmness of your voice helps children to stop, listen and take note of your feelings.
Yelling also creates a low self-esteem in children and is often a habit that some parents have fallen into. Justin Coulson advises that yelling causes children to become fearful, which translates to them being critical of themselves. When they are yelled at, they simply cannot absorb what you are trying to communicate. Remaining calm helps children to remain calm too.
Parenting can be challenging at times and we hope that some of the above tips will be useful for promoting a calmer household. For more ideas, visit our blog for further resources.